Sunday, September 26, 2010

In love but no sexual attraction

I'm 18 and had 3-4 "serious" relationships.
I have never went for anyone I feel sexually attracted to. The guys make me happy, make me laugh and we fall in love. But I've never felt "I must have you now" lust, just learned to deal with the fact it's lacked in all my relationships.
But now it seems to be getting harder to ignore. Do you think sexual desire is something you can ignore? Overcome?




I dunno lol

I'm 18 and had 3-4 "serious" relationships.
I have never went for anyone I feel sexually attracted to. The guys make me happy, make me laugh and we fall in love. But I've never felt "I must have you now" lust, just learned to deal with the fact it's lacked in all my relationships.
But now it seems to be getting harder to ignore. Do you think sexual desire is something you can ignore? Overcome?

>I'm 18
>3-4 "serious" relationships.
no. you are too young to really have serious relationships in this culture. You have probably never lived with them, and none of them probably lasted more than 2 years (being very generous). wait until you're out of high school and start finding people you haven't known sense childhood.

just try to f**k a few guys you like sexually, and then decide
anyway you'll never be as happy as that turtle


>I'm 18
>3-4 "serious" relationships.
no. you are too young to really have serious relationships in this culture. You have probably never lived with them, and none of them probably lasted more than 2 years (being very generous). wait until you're out of high school and start finding people you haven't known sense childhood.

I have lived with one, and yes it was over two years...

just try to f**k a few guys you like sexually, and then decide
anyway you'll never be as happy as that turtle

Are you seriously telling someone to be a slut?


Are you seriously telling someone to be a slut?

sure, why not?

>18
>over 2 years
>thinks he had 3 other serious relationships when he was 16 and under
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Are you seriously telling someone to be a slut?

You're an a**hole.
There's nothing wrong with having casual sex. Try it, OP.

>18
>over 2 years
>thinks he had 3 other serious relationships when he was 16 and under
>laughingelfman.jpg

I was in a serious relationship with a guy from the age of (just turning)15 which ended last year, we lived together and were very much in love. I would count two other relationships I've had since last year (one of which i am still in) as serious. I said 3-4. Yes they were all different degree's of "seriousness" but thats besides the point, and not relevant to my question. F**k.


I was in a serious relationship with a guy from the age of (just turning)15 which ended last year, we lived together and were very much in love. I would count two other relationships I've had since last year (one of which i am still in) as serious. I said 3-4. Yes they were all different degree's of "seriousness" but thats besides the point, and not relevant to my question. F**k.

Did you try girls ?


I was in a serious relationship with a guy from the age of (just turning)15 which ended last year, we lived together and were very much in love. I would count two other relationships I've had since last year (one of which i am still in) as serious. I said 3-4. Yes they were all different degree's of "seriousness" but thats besides the point, and not relevant to my question. F**k.

I've only ever had one drunken experience with my best female friend... didn't think much of it, why?


I've only ever had one drunken experience with my best female friend... didn't think much of it, why?

Maybe something less "normal" than consensual sex with a loving, stable partner of the opposite sex woulld excite you.
If not sapphism, do you have any particular fantasy ?


Maybe something less "normal" than consensual sex with a loving, stable partner of the opposite sex woulld excite you.
If not sapphism, do you have any particular fantasy ?

Yes that would excite me. But I'm in a relationship. With someone I love, care about and could never cheat on. He is perfect for me every way - apart from sexually. The only fantasy I have is having sex with someone (a faceless figure usually) and enjoying it.
:(


Yes that would excite me. But I'm in a relationship. With someone I love, care about and could never cheat on. He is perfect for me every way - apart from sexually. The only fantasy I have is having sex with someone (a faceless figure usually) and enjoying it.
:(

Ask for his agreement, then it's not cheating. Sexual exclusivity has no value for itself.


Yes that would excite me. But I'm in a relationship. With someone I love, care about and could never cheat on. He is perfect for me every way - apart from sexually. The only fantasy I have is having sex with someone (a faceless figure usually) and enjoying it.
:(

Haha, how many guys do you know that would react well to "So I'd like to f**k someone else, that ok yeah?".....


Ask for his agreement, then it's not cheating. Sexual exclusivity has no value for itself.


Yes that would excite me. But I'm in a relationship. With someone I love, care about and could never cheat on. He is perfect for me every way - apart from sexually. The only fantasy I have is having sex with someone (a faceless figure usually) and enjoying it.
:(

Also, if you expect some simple advice on how to enjoy a kind of sexual relations that up to now you didn't enjoy, we can only disappoint you.
A sex therapist could give you help for that, though. Maybe.
I just can say that lust is an educated feeling. If you start by finding sexual pleasure out of exciting situations, then you'll associate your partner with sexual excitement, and then only you'll feel lust for him.

Don't settle. Don't date somebody just because he's a nice guy. Can you imagine having sex with him? No? Then don't date him.


Haha, how many guys do you know that would react well to "So I'd like to f**k someone else, that ok yeah?".....

If really her boyfriend would feel bad about it, she could try to start by proposing him a threesome with a female friend, and then slowly work at erasing his insecurities.

Thanks for reminding me of why I hate women.
Sage.


If really her boyfriend would feel bad about it, she could try to start by proposing him a threesome with a female friend, and then slowly work at erasing his insecurities.

I don't know any girls that would want to have a three some with my boyfriend.

Thanks for reminding me of why I hate women.
Sage.

Why?
I haven't done anything wrong, and I don't plan to do anything to hurt my boyfriend, I never would. So what the hell? How am I a bad person?


I don't know any girls that would want to have a three some with my boyfriend.

Is he unattractive ?
If not, then maybe you're just not aware of those who would accept. Or if really you're the only girl in your circle who would appreciate a little change in your sex life, the internet is there for you.
You should have no difficulties finding a slightly older woman ready for these things.

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